Monthly Archives: October 2015

#Simplicity

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#Psychotherapy and #Supervision are about creating #Simplicity from complex thoughts, feelings or behaviours.

#Psychotherapy may be feared: but what’s to fear? Supporters which include Alain De Botton and The School of Life, often advocate therapy as an emotional ‘check-up’ or ‘MOT’, a bit like you might go to the doctors for a physical check-up.

Here is a quote from The School of Life, which might shine a light on why Psychotherapy and Supervision (a super-view) may be useful and necessary.

“We’re discovering the big meaning of simplicity in our lives. In the past, there were times when no one wanted simplicity. Few people had enough, stimulation was in short supply, dull routine was the norm. Simplicity could look like deprivation, boredom or lack of opportunity. Now it’s so different. We’ve got too much to do, we’re constantly assailed by demands and offers, we’re brought up against too much complexity all the time. We’re realising we positively need simplicity: it’s a guide to a better life. Simplicity is in short supply. We need a lot more of it.”         The School of Life

For the full article, go to:  www.thebookoflife.org/simplicity

Body Image: some of my recent reflections

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From time to time I am asked to contribute to articles on other professional websites about issues that I have some understanding around. Here’s a recent item on body image and dieting.

www.rscpp.co.uk/content/features/eating-disorders-summer-bikini-diet

 

 

So you think you’re #alone….as #students begin their new lives.

 

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A student colleague of mine from a former life recently published his autobiography. In his brief reference to #college days he mentioned that he felt he was quickly disillusioned by the course and it’s content. He felt he didn’t fit in, and that he was misunderstood by tutors and others who were not from his region of the country. That many of us were disillusioned and disillusional about our ability, with reference to our regional accents.

My immediate response could’ve been to take offence – but when I thought about it some of what he had said was right. We were all pretty unsure of our course of action, and many met this in the other with bravado and idealism. Nothing wrong with that – except they were clearly just that. However, on top of that we were busy attempting to make sense of this ‘new family’ (it was a very small course). We all responded differently to the different #cultures that surrounded us, making #judgements along the way to keep us ‘safe’, or so we thought. As an #introvert I withdrew, and spent time with very few people, many of whom seemed to leave the course.

In this biography the inference could be that he alone felt this way. But evidence and student counselling rooms are full of these sorts of thoughts and feelings. The difference now is that young people are more aware that help is there – if they can navigate their way through their feelings and thoughts to a place and space to understand what is going on for them.  The sense of confusion, newness, loss and pressure all come together in one space, whilst often far away from all that they know.

So as term starts and all that ‘freedom’ and ‘opportunity’ is offered to students, take a moment to consider what these young people are attempting to come to terms with. A confusing time and so many new experiences to deal with can be a difficult challenge for the most experienced of us.

Loneliness is not uncommon, and indeed to be able to be with ourselves is a bonus.  But being #alone and #feelinglonely are two very different experiences. As any introvert will tell you.